With all of the drama occurring in the White House, drama in our neighborhoods, drama even in our households, and our workplace. Dealing with difficult people happens to be a reoccurring situation that happens on a daily basis. Everyone is stressed and overwhelmed. You end up dealing others people’s issues as they are yelling, screaming, cursing, and displaying rudeness.
So coming across a difficult person may be quite common than unusual, which is the sad part. I have dealt with many circumstances with dealing with difficult people in my life, in which I constantly try to raise above the mess they carry around. Raising above also protects yourself from the energy that others display and stop it from transferring over to you. Here are five ways to deal with difficult people:
1.Kill Em With Kindness
When someone is rude to us or does things to hurt us. Sometimes our first thought is to allow our emotions to lead you to revenge.
As much as it may seem to make sense to hurt others the way they hurt you. Being honest with yourself, that’s the child within speaking not the adult.
I remember as an child, my mom would tell me if someone hit me then I was supposed to hit them back. Since I began following the steps of my dear Father (God) and Jesus’s example. I adapted to a different concept, which was turn the other cheek.
Show that difficult person the kindness they truly yearn for within. Being honest with ourselves, no one wakes wanting to be difficult. Many people become difficult due to our fear, hurt, sorrow, and lack of trust.
I am guilty of giving people what they deserve, but I have also made a chance to treat others the way they should be treated. I treated people the way I would want to be treat if I were in their shoes.
Remember true kindness is courage, which what God shows to me on daily basis. God’s kindness was truly appreciated when I was at my lowest within.
Ephesians 4:31-32 CEV, “Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others. Don’t yell at one another or curse each other or ever be rude. Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ.”
God’s grace is everything to me, it helped me through some very dark moments in my life, where I was able to find the light within.
Grace is free and unmerited favor from God that he gives just because he truly loves us.
This is truly hard task, but once you accomplish it. It allows you to feel joy within. It’s a wonderful feeling that allows you to accept what you lack within or in life.
God’s grace makes us whole within, and without it we would be nothing. No matter how many things we had or accomplished in life.
We should show others God’s by demonstrating to others what God’s grace looks like. We are not perfect, which is why we should not hold the difficult person to such high standards anyhow. Grace comes from the spirit of God.
Ephesians 2:8 CEV, “You were saved by faith in God, who treats us much better than we deserve. This is God’s gift to you, and not anything you have done on your own.”
Who doesn’t want R.E.S.P.E.C.T? Sometimes we want it so desperately that we tend to indulge into things that go against who we really are within just to be accepted by others. The interesting thing is that just because we are feeling accepted into situation does not mean we are respected.
I’m sure many of you have dealt with a similar circumstance of sacrificing self for others while confusing acceptance with respect.
Respect comes from the heart. It takes a great heart to respect an difficult person despite their behavior. This is one of the things difficult people truly need, which why they chose to act is such a displeasing way.
1 Peter 2:17 CEV, “Respect everyone and show special love for God’s people. Honor God and respect the Emperor.”
4.Figure Out What That Difficult Person is revealing About Self
It’s quite common to come across the same type of difficult person. It could be that someone who display behavior of an a know it all or need to be center of attention, or etc. Whatever difficult person God is allowing the Universe to use against is for you own good.
God wants to provide you with an opportunity to either discover, grow, or test you to see if you have truly changed within. God uses difficult people to help us discover some our own mirror images that we dislike of ourselves.
He uses difficult people to help us grow spiritually. God also tests us to see if we are ready to handle what’s next in our life. We cannot just be able to endure the goodness of life, but true character is revealed when we are faced with difficult people in our life. All is meant to help us increase our endurance within.
2 Corinthians 12:10 CEV,”Yes, I am glad to be weak or insulted or mistreated or to have troubles and sufferings, if it is for Christ. Because when I am weak, I am strong.”
When all else fails, ignoring is the go too. Some people are too stubborn to see when the light is being shown at them. While others may be a bit more negative than you can tolerate, which is fine.
Just because that difficult person chooses walk around in that negative space does mean you have to join them. You chose to live in positivity, which is why you are choosing to ignore.
It’s best most of the time to walk away from a situation or someone when their energy is not serving you properly. They will get the memo, if your love and care serve an important purpose in their life.
Romans 12:2 CEV, “Don’t be like the people of this world, but let God change the way you think. Then you will know how to do everything that is good and pleasing to him.”
Serving the difficult is hard, but we have to also remember we were once them. In fact, we can still become them when we allow humanist kick in. The best way to tackle and overcome a difficult person is connect with God and our higher self.
Don’t allow your emotions to lead in difficult situations with people. Instead, pray your way through. Ask God to give you strength in pressuring moments. Not to stoop down to a level lower than yours. Pray for that difficult person because you may be the only one doing it for them.
Always remember you are better than how others treat you, and you show that every-time you chose to raise above others people’s mess! I wouldn’t give these tips if they did not work. It may take time but they definitely work!
Colossians 3:12-13 CEV, “God loves you and has chosen you as his own special people. So be gentle, kind, humble, meek, and patient. Put up with each other, and forgive anyone who does you wrong, just as Christ has forgiven you.”