No one like to walk around being judged or looked upon as being anything less than who we are. The unfortunate thing is that we judge ourselves all the times.
We criticize ourselves about our looks,mindset, who we are, and our uniqueness. We call ourselves really terrible names like stupid, ugly, not worthy, or not good enough for self or others.
We are living in a world, where judgement is the norm of the humanistic experiences. We see on the news, gossip shows, other media content, family, friends, strangers, our workplace, and society (racism). Judging can be a large part of your reality especially if you do it too yourself on consistent basis.
When you are told so many times that you are not worthy or good enough especially individuals who were subjected to some sort of abuse as a child and adult hearing and seeing this is the norm for them. I feel its tolerated into too many places.
A lot of times many began to believe that’s who they are, which some began to develop the behavior of trying to be perfect or please of others so their perspective of self can be began to change due to the fact that many of us believe we get our sense of worthiness from others.
I use to believe that so much, in fact it was hard for not to believe until I allowed Christ to be in my life. I would do anything to stop myself from being my true self so that others could feel good about themselves. I didn’t care if I suffered inside but as long as others were happy I was too.
Writing this statement makes me recognize my true growth. I would call myself all types of negative names except who God created me to be especially when I was subjected to cruel judgment by others especially family and other authority figures. When you place your worthy in others, you will never began to recognize that you were meant to become whole within.
When you find your worth through Christ, you are aware and believe your worth comes from the Lord that you began run towards the journey of being whole because you know that its meant to be.
1 Corinthians 11:31-32 CEV, “But if we were more discerning with regard to ourselves, we would not come under such judgment. Nevertheless, when we are judged in this way by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be finally condemned with the world.”
I like to say that God doesn’t judge us but he definitely will convict us, where many may feel judge because no one is use to hearing constructive criticism of themselves , which is promoted to produce change. We have to recognize the shadow that lies within us.
When we believe and stay focus on our worth through Christ and not our families, friends, and society. We will began comprehend that we are enough and worthy of having anything God says we can have.
When we place our worthiness based on our families, friends, and others; our worth is subjected to change so much that it can never be persistent. This allows you began to live out the dreams and goals of others. Where many of the times, you will end up in a place not feeling joy or fulfilled within.
We must to get to a point in ourselves, where we can examine ourselves by holding ourselves accountable but we don’t judge ourselves to the point of lower our own self-esteem and self-worth. The best test to pass of stopping the habit of judging yourself is positive affirmations and that you can do all things through Christ Jesus.
Telling yourself that you are doing well with what you were given and in the capacity it was given. Recognizing that you did your best regardless of the outcome definitely take a long process to achieve.
It’s a process of stripping away anything or anyone who doesn’t serve you based on who God’s says you are. I mean, we were created by him, he knows us better than we know ourselves. You have to remind yourself so much until you began to believe it and advocate for your own self-worth when others began to judge you based on your actions.
No one is perfect not even myself but we also cannot allow others to place us on that stance either because that’s an expectation that none of us could ever live up too.
I began to discover the people and the circumstances I judge was a reflection of me judging myself. Telling myself I wasn’t worthy enough, pretty enough, good enough for anything God says I was.
I am at a point of my life that I am aware of me judging others that I working on allowing my intuition to guide me more and not my thoughts. For when the heart is clean so is the mind. When you accept who you are, you began to love yourself more, and care about yourself more. What and how you feel within reflects the way you see others.
I am beginning to recognize that we are all trying to find where we fit in this world. I believe it’s best to figure out, where we fit in with Christ, so he can began to make room within us by stripping us of anything less than who we are.
That time of freeing yourself of judgement and being your worst critic will only come when you get tired of living with your own dysfunction or mess, this is when true transformation spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially is able to occur through a process.
Allowing yourself to transform within allows you to change the way you see the world around you, which usually ends positively. This is where you began discerns others based on their hearts rather than their actions, looks, and worth.
The time speaks now to free yourself of judging self, so your reality in front can change. This is a point in your life, where you will never look back again because you are confident that good things are reaching before you.